During the month of October 2014, I participated in the 31 Days Writing Challenge. I chose to read and write for 31 Days on the book of Sirach. I covered topics about our daily affirmations, words, money and neighbors. But the last week of the writing challenge, I tackled being a good wife.
The topic of being a good wife is dear to me, but a painful one. I was not a good wife when I first married. And whose really to say that I am now, except for the fact I try. When I fist married, I was selfish, immature, a mean girl and hurting so badly I didn’t even know what it felt like to not hurt.
Thanks be to God He blessed me with a strong man who knew giving in to my unhealthy ways would do neither one of us any good. He loved me enough to not allow himself to be drug into my unhappiness and instead made me want my own happiness. Does that make sense? He knew I was hurt and unhappy. He also knew he could not fix me. My happiness had to come from the inside out not the outside in.
Ultimately, a good wife is one who loves herself. She has respect for herself and values herself. This peace and contentment she possess, and sometimes it may be a struggle to maintain, but this peace and contentment allows her–gives her the freedom to be a good wife.
A good wife does not resent her husband’s happiness. Isn’t that one of the worst feelings in the world? When you are unhappy and the people around you are happy? You resent their happiness and pout because no one is catering to your own unhappiness.
A good wife not only wants her own peace and happiness, she wants those around her to be happy as well. I know these posts on being a good wife will bless you.
A Good Wife: An Intelligent Wife
A Good Wife in Her Well Ordered Home
A Good Wife Honors Her Husband
A Good Wife Makes Her Husband Happy
Books for a Strong Marriage:
Just Married: The Catholic Guide to Surviving and Thriving in the First Five Years of Marriage
When Divorce Is Not an Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love
The Temperament God Gave Your Spouse
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts