I am a perfect specimen of an imperfect woman. I strive for virtue and try to run from vice, but sometimes I’m too slow and it catches up to me. I can be greedy and gossipy, rude and reclusive, selfish and sinful, obnoxious and obstinate. But please, grant me grace for where I am and who I am, not who you thought I was or would like for me to be. Let’s do this grace exchange for each other ok–assume the best.
Our family examination of conscience has these words towards the bottom
You see, I may not be who you think I am…or want me to be. I struggle differently than you and just because you don’t see it, does not mean it isn’t there; some days just below the surface. I have fought hard and struggled to get closer to God to get where I am, but old habits die hard and deep wounds heal slowly.
You may see me…and I may see someone else and think, “Wow, they are so (insert only great adjectives here!) When in reality, we are all just doing the best we can and that looks differently. Some days I may have a clean house and joyful children who completed all their school work. Other days I may call a pajama day and have an older daughter make popcorn for lunch because that’s all I’ve got.
Some days I pray like nobody’s business–using my prayer journal all–“professional pray-er” style, and other days I struggle–hard. Formal prayers are not even attempted and conversation style prayer is really more a bunch of hurried cries for “help” “strength” and “patience.”
I hope this post isn’t just about me, it’s about all of us. We are all suffering or struggling in our own way. And you know what that feels like right? So let’s be kind to each other. Let’s extend grace instead of gossip, mercy instead of making fun of, love for someone instead laughing at them, prayer instead of backbiting. Some people need neither a cheerleader nor a counselor…they just need some quiet to process life on their own. And friends who grant them grace..you know, the “no strings attached” kind of grace.
Let’s always assume the best and forgive the worst and pray others do the same for us.