It’s time to share another great parenting book here at The Littlest Way…Book Club Time: Fit to Burst. I’m recording my notes from Fit to Burst : Abundance, Mayhem, and the Joys of Motherhood. Direct quotes from the book will be bold and the rest is my thoughts, pondering and ramblings. You can find more great book recommendations along with my notes and reflections on my Book Club Time page.
Book Club Time: Fit to Burst
—The mentality of sacrifice is not a mentality of sorrow. Well, I’m not sorrowful I think, but does my body language and tone of voice reflect that? Do I say, “I haavve to fix dinner,” in a tone that expresses joy in my vocation? Or do I roll my eyes, draw out my words and slog my way to the kitchen?
—Scripture is very clear on this–if you seek to be full, give.
—Sacrifice isn’t really sacrifice if it involves only doing what you want.
—When you empty yourself for others, God fills you up.
—God gives to us that we may give. There are so many ways I have considered this sentence. God has given my children to me so that I may give them back to Him. God has given me His love so that I can give my love to my children. God has given me His Son, sacrificed for my life, so that I may give my life as a sacrifice to God and my children…
—There is a difference between giving something and having it taken from you. If you still count the things that you lost with resentment, then you did not give them.
—Your thoughts alone will not play into the memories of your children. What’s the saying, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” This is a great reminder to me that parenting is a verb…a hands on–hearts on, full time job.
—When we want the cost to be shared by all, we are not imitating Christ. How many times has my attitude been one of expecting Chris’ help when he walks through the door? Now, I’m not saying Chris shouldn’t help. What I am saying is I have this attitude of “I’ve been with a cranky toddler, a grumpy teen and lots of people in between wanting this-that-or-the other and I’m so glad you’re here to take over. I’m tired.” Obviously that does not take into account the day he may have had. All I’m concerned with is getting my burden relieved.
—I am in charge both of setting the goals and expectations, and of following through on them. I’m pretty good at setting the goals, very good at setting the expectations and choke when it comes to the follow through…but oh boy do I expect others to fill in that gap for me sometimes. I need to read and reread the whole take the log out of your own eye story time and time again.
—Nobody wants to gather around with people who despise you and who see you as a task to be checked off…They (our children) should see us laboring hard to make a beautiful life for them while not losing sight of them in it. This quote, along with Sarah’s book, Teaching from Rest: A Homeschooler’s Guide to Unshakable Peace, has me rereading all those homeschooling books I read so long ago. I want to make sure my children’s education is not just one more thing to be checked off, unless they are a child that wants to check off the box.
Also, do my children feel like they are just “one more thing?” I wouldn’t want to feel that way.
—But our opportunities to bless our children are often most present when we least feel like it. AMEN!
—Real life is messy because it is going somewhere. This an area I have been completely shocked by in the last couple of years. I thought since I practiced attachment parenting with each of my children from birth, that would insulate my relationship with them and protect it from the strains of teen-age behavior problems. Well, I was wrong. Here’s why…first and foremost we all are fallen creatures. But more importantly, an active growing life does get messy for the exact reason this quote states, “…it is going somewhere.” Birth is messy…and glorious and joyful and something to be celebrated, but messy for sure. And just as a child is brought forth from the mother’s womb, it is also brought forth into the world later on as an emerging adult. And sometimes that can look and feel a little messy. Oh my gracious–that realization was amazing–right now as I was typing it! Thank you Jesus for that revelation.
—Our lives are a story–they are interwoven with the next generation in a way that is impossible for us to understand. This does not say our lives are fairy tales…they are a story–they are our story. What story am I writing on the hearts and minds of my children to share with theirs?
—It is a mother’s job to communicate the love that the father has towards his children. It is our job to translate. When we take the work that our husband does and turn it into fellowship around the table, he is able to enjoy both the fruit of his hard work and the enjoyment of his love. He provided for us, and we are rejoicing in that.
—Who you eat with shapes you on a very basic level.
—We need to spend less time listening to ourselves, and more time talking to ourselves. But be very careful what you say momma!
—Discontent will never change the world.