How has the first full week of Lent and working through our Lent Devotional for Women been for you? That’s a rhetorical question. I don’t really want to know how you’re Lent has gone so far. I’m not being mean or insensitive, but your Lent is not between you and me; it’s between you and God.
So I want you to get quiet for a minute or more and ask yourself, “How is my Lent going so far?” Now discuss the answer with God. The less you talk to me or others about your Lent, the more time you have to talk to God about your Lent. #truth
Here’s something else to ask God, “Lord, who do you want me to love more and better? How do you want me to love more and better? When, and what situations do I need to love more and better?”
In today’s Lent Devotional for Women let’s consider how ‘yes’ to some things and ‘no’ to others can impact our goal of loving more and better this Lent.
Sometimes love means saying ‘No’ to ourselves and others. And this ‘No’ can even be for good things. I’m sure the people at my church think I’m a total slacker because I never volunteer and frequently say ‘No’ to things that are asked of me.
But I’m honestly doing all I can do right now.
One more thing on my plate of life right now, no matter how good, great, or noble, will be too much for me and for my family. The outside may look all fine and dandy but let me assure you, there are struggles being struggled with, battles being waged and fought, and the painful awareness of healing–physical and mental from a Melanoma in Situ last year, spiritual and emotional from this thing called life.
“Too much” for this momma looks like a momma who gets overwhelmed and tired and stressed and very quickly and easily becomes a punching bag for the enemy. Which, renders me useless to do what I have been called to do in my own home. And if the overwhelm becomes too great, I get stuck in my head.
Been there, done that, don’t want to ever, ever go back!
That ‘No’ to volunteer work, in reality, is a ‘Yes’ to my vocation. Taking soup to feed others at the church can be a wonderful thing, unless I leave my house in tears, tossing peanut butter sandwiches to my kids in their own puddle of tears and grumbling at my husband because he didn’t this or he did that.
I’m sure you’ve seen the saying on the internet about saying ‘Yes’ to one thing is saying ‘No’ to another and vice versa.
I have to be cautious when I say either ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to examine the other side of my answer. I’ve learned there is no shame in asking for time to think about my answer.
You see, We gain no virtue by saying ‘Yes’ to all the things if we shirk the things God has already given us. Doing what we are supposed to do, and striving to do it well, sometimes, will be all we can handle.
At certain times in our life, only doing what’s in front of us is enough, and maybe even more than enough. And that’s ok. It’s ok to say ‘No’ to others to take care of ourselves. It’s ok to say ‘No’ to others to take care of our family.
Read the rest of the Lent Devotional for Women posts.